DEAR WOMEN

Dear Women,

First of all, we're sorry. We're sorry that although we look like men, we often act like boys. We're not even sure what it means to be men anymore. As we grow up, we learn that to be happy is to be self-indulgent and self-centered. We try to make enough money so that we can have the right TV with the right video games in the right home. We want to date you and maybe even marry you but we are scared to focus on someone else instead of ourselves. Isn't it sad that we see committing to you as a potential threat to our happiness instead of a wonderful opportunity?Here's what we don't understand: True happiness comes from being true men. We think and act like boys who don't want their toys taken away. We look up to "role models" in the media who teach us to get as much gratification out of life as possible. We may claim to be spiritual, or even firm atheists, but pleasure is the god that we worship, whether we realize it or not. Unfortunately, women tend to be just another part of our hedonistic lifestyle. Please know this: True men won't treat you like an irritating obstacle or a sexual convenience.A real man understands that women are to be cherished and treated with care and honor. He sees marriage as the opportunity to be a real-life superhero—he leaves behind his old identity and becomes a new person, dedicated to serving his wife and children. Although he will struggle at first, a true man who marries eventually understands that he can't fit through the narrow doorway to happiness if he tries to carry all of his toys with him. There is just enough room for him and his wife, arm in arm, committed to their marriage.Women, you can help us become real men! Most importantly, we want to feel admired by you. Help us to know that you love us just as we are, even if there is room for improvement. Do this by giving us words of validation; praise us for the things we do well. This means more to us than we let on.In return, we will make sure that you feel loved and cherished by us. We will learn to talk with you so you can be heard and understood, not so that we can tell you how to solve your problems. We'll also try to learn to express how we feel without withdrawing or getting angry. With polished communication we can learn that what makes you happy makes us happy too! What a concept!Once again, we're sorry. We are to blame, even though good male role models are hard to find these days. We've ignored our calling to become true men and instead act like we're in high school for as long as we can. Please trust that we are capable of more than this.If you are frustrated with the man in your life, do your best to forgive him and start fresh. After a while, if it's clear that he will not become a real man, leave him. You deserve better.A healthy relationship will make everyone involved feel happy. When we are happy, we are capable of living meaningful and fulfilling lives alongside one another. Thank you for your understanding and patience as we journey onward to find happiness and become real men.

Sincerely,
Men

BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP MISTAKES

WOW. . . .it has been forever since i last wrote. . . . it has been an interesting 2 oh sorry 3 months in my life with a whole load of  stuff going on both good and bad. One of the worst things that happened( won't say it here) has been holding me ransom and i have been having a hard time letting go and moving on with well my life as it should be.  That is what got me thinking and i had to do a bit of research on the things that we ( both men and women) do wrong in our relationships. This list below really opened my eyes and made me see myself differently, but most of all it made me appreciate my relationship and most of all Mr. Right  So what are the biggest relationships mistakes we make: Kindly fill free to add to the list. . . 

1.  Forgetting to Be Friends

The root of a healthy relationship is friendship

2. Intentionally Saying Hurtful Things

(this is so me) Even when you are arguing with each other, don't say things that you know will hurt them. Don't disrespect them or say something that could affect them negatively.( I AM SORRY)

3. Not Resolving Conflict

It's become pretty popular to avoid saying "I'm sorry" at all costs these days. This may work for you if you'd like to make your partner feel terrible, but owning up to your mistakes will be worth it for both of you.

4.  Can't Handle Distance

It is not uncommon for someone to have a job that takes them far away at times. Some people are not cut out for a relationship like this but will make the mistake of trying to stick with it anyway. It may seem brutal to break it off because you can't handle the distance, but in the end you will only be saving each other from years of misery.

5. No Romance

Sure, feeling like you're in a chick flick can be pretty cheesy, but sometimes it's those cheesy little moments that really show your partner that you care.

6. Not Handling Embarrassment

A lot of people will accept being with someone that makes them feel embarrassed, or worse, someone that is embarrassed to be seen with them. Don't sell yourself short just because you're afraid of being alone. You owe them and yourself the respect to get out.

7.  Not Being on the Same Page

Some couples have a problem with one person feeling more committed than the other. Make sure you're on the same page about everything. 

8.  Not Seeing Things From Their View

You need empathy to get through any other relationship in your life -- with co-workers, your family, your friends -- why should it be different with your partner? (but doesn't mean its his side only)

9. Making Assumptions

One of the biggest assumptions made in a relationship is thinking that your partner is a certain way just because you met someone else that's that way too. The whole "all guys/girls are the same" idea gets old fast.

10.  Pretending to Like Things You Don't

This is a textbook mistake that people have been making since the beginning of time!(mainly sports yet all you want to do is bum with a good book and a large glass of wine) Be with someone that shares your interests or at least someone that respect your differences, you will be much happier.

11. Expecting Things to Change

This is a hard lesson for some people to learn, but you can't change your boyfriend/girlfriend. Only they can do that and only when they decide to. If you're waiting it out, expecting something wonderful to happen, you're only wasting your time.

12.  Constant Fighting

I have heard  that relationships where you don't fight. . . then gyal your man doesn't really care about you  but If you find yourself fighting nearly every day just to make yourself heard, it's probably time to head out or send your partner packing.

13Avoiding the Issues

Couples that argue all the time are not healthy, however couples that never discuss the tough issues may be worse. If you both keep sweeping problems under the rug and pretending to be happy, the downfall may be drastic.(hahahahaha)

Compiling this list was the most refreshing thing i did, i am pretty sure there are more goofs we all make i sure wouldn't mind hearing of them. . . please feel free to add

DADDY DEAREST

He never looks for praises

He's never one to boast

He just goes on quietly working

For those he loves the most

His dreams are seldom spoken

His wants are very few

And most of the time his worries

Will go unspoken too

He's there.... A firm foundation

Through all our storms of life

A sturdy hand to hold to

In times of stress and strife

A true friend we can turn to

When times are good or bad

One of our greatest blessings,

The man that we call Dad.

UNDERSTANDING LIFE

Life isn't just about keeping score, It's not about how many people call you and it's not about who you've dated or haven't dated at all. It isn't about who you've kissed, what sport you play,Or which guy likes you.


It's not about your shoes or your hair,or the color of your skin,or where you live or work. In fact it's not about grades, money or clothes. Life isn't about if you have lots of friends or if you are alone and it's not about how accepted or unaccepted you are.


Believe me life isn't about that.

Life is about who you love and who you hurt. it's about how you feel about yourself, it's about trust, happiness, and compassion. It's about avoiding jealousy, overcoming ignorance and building confidence.


It's about what you say and what you mean, it's about seeing people for who they are and not for what they have. Most of all it is choosing to use your life in a way that could have never been achieved otherwise.


These choices are what life's about.

IT'S OVER: Break- Up Letter

Dear Soon to be Ex

The saddest thing you can say to anyone is “goodbye,” but sometimes in life, it is the only thing one can say.it's sad but I’m writing you now, to say that very thing because I feel the distance that has grown between us and the unspoken words that we both have been keeping inside so as to not truly hurt one another. I know people, aside from ourselves, say and do things that influence how we feel or treat others around us. People can be cruel and unthinking at times. My life does not revolve around such people and things, but it’s obvious to me now, that you do. Lately our differences have become more of an issue and I guess our directions in life have changed so dramatically that to continue as friends would only become more hurtful to us both. I know you no longer wish to understand the person I am inside. I sensed it by your silence. I spent my whole life pretending to be someone else in order to please others. I am very comfortable now being who I am meant to be, that I will no longer put my own happiness aside to pacify anyone else, not even you. You have chosen your own path in life and I see now, it is without me. You have made your choice and I now, make mine. Our own paths no longer travel in the same direction so our parting as friends has all but been decided. I want to thank you, though, for the times we spent together, the great talks, and those moments that only friends can know. I also want to thank you for the memories I will carry with me of all the happier times we shared as friends. I rarely remember anything less. You helped me grow as a person and enjoy the gift that is friendship, even if only for this short time. I know people come into your life for a reason and not all remain, but in some ways, you will. I guess we’ve actually been saying goodbye to each other for some time now, but have both been reluctant to actually say the words. So now the words have been said and the time has come to put our friendship to rest. It is far better to part as friends and go on with life, than to continue on as we are, leading only to bitterness and hurt. Take care, be well, and know life will always find a way to help you through the saddest of times. I must leave you now, but in no way, will I ever forget you. Good Luck and God Bless!

Your loving Ex

Disclaimer: NOT IN ANY WAY CONNECTED TO MY RELATIONSHIP