THE DATE

The past weekend, I got a chance to meet new friends and we started talking, we talked on everything from death to marriage, anything that we could talk about was covered. The most interesting and controversial topic for the night however was on dating. The men had their slightly ambiguous ideas and the women had more conflicting thoughts. From lists of qualities that women make, the pressures of what to do, where to take her, to who pays for the date? This was the funniest line for me on dating, this guys says: that it’s not embarrassing to meet a girl on line; it’s more embarrassing to meet her in a bar (really) . It was an awesome night one filled with laughter and one that gave me quite a number of flashbacks. I am one of those women to whom romance is a must, I need it the way a man stuck in a dessert needs a drink of water. So I think that Dating is an awesome time in someone’s life. It’s like a new car, you love having it and at the same time you do not want to over use it. You know what I mean. Coz when I get my flash backs or those tidbits that one remembers, I enjoy the most those first days of getting to know someone. The excitement, the constant texts, the calls that last most of the night. The movie dates, or ice cream at java. A first date is loaded with expectancy, will he like me and will I like him? If or when we get physical how does that go, when we kiss, shall the memory of that kiss give me butterflies?( I remember a blast from the past who would play a mix CD of very romantic music from in the kitchen by R Kelly to sexual healing by Marvin Gaye every time we were together.) At the end of the night we had come to a mutual understanding that dating is crazy business. In our confused and slightly inebriated minds we came up with a few dating rules, this are some of the few I could remember. 1. Do try to always look your best and be punctual 2. Do date only people you're attracted to, no matter what your friends say. 3. Don't call, text message or email someone you've just started seeing more than once a day unless they reply (or in the event of an emergency). Desperation and instability are major turnoffs. 4. Don’t make yourself too available. 5. Keep him guessing and wanting more. 6. Do not share excessive details about your past 7. You shall compliment her 8. Don't ignore your personal safety. Carry your cell phone and keep it charged -- and make sure to tell your friends where you're going and when you'll be back. 9. Please do not lead her on The last and most important thing is 10. Don't check out other people when you're on a date. Ever. This is just tacky. None of all this is in chronological order or importance, but they are true. Women are the easiest people to understand. We only ask for ATTENTION, be it a woman in her 50s, a widowed woman, married or divorced, that is all we want. And we mainly get it through romance and this is mainly achieved in Dating. If you are single get yourself out there and date, if you are in relationship this is tricky coz to be really honest I am still searching on how to get it, as it takes two parties.