WOW. . . .it has been forever since i last wrote. . . . it has been an interesting 2 oh sorry 3 months in my life with a whole load of stuff going on both good and bad. One of the worst things that happened( won't say it here) has been holding me ransom and i have been having a hard time letting go and moving on with well my life as it should be. That is what got me thinking and i had to do a bit of research on the things that we ( both men and women) do wrong in our relationships. This list below really opened my eyes and made me see myself differently, but most of all it made me appreciate my relationship and most of all Mr. Right So what are the biggest relationships mistakes we make: Kindly fill free to add to the list. . .
1. Forgetting to Be Friends
The root of a healthy relationship is friendship
2. Intentionally Saying Hurtful Things
(this is so me) Even when you are arguing with each other, don't say things that you know will hurt them. Don't disrespect them or say something that could affect them negatively.( I AM SORRY)
3. Not Resolving Conflict
It's become pretty popular to avoid saying "I'm sorry" at all costs these days. This may work for you if you'd like to make your partner feel terrible, but owning up to your mistakes will be worth it for both of you.
4. Can't Handle Distance
It is not uncommon for someone to have a job that takes them far away at times. Some people are not cut out for a relationship like this but will make the mistake of trying to stick with it anyway. It may seem brutal to break it off because you can't handle the distance, but in the end you will only be saving each other from years of misery.
5. No Romance
Sure, feeling like you're in a chick flick can be pretty cheesy, but sometimes it's those cheesy little moments that really show your partner that you care.
6. Not Handling Embarrassment
A lot of people will accept being with someone that makes them feel embarrassed, or worse, someone that is embarrassed to be seen with them. Don't sell yourself short just because you're afraid of being alone. You owe them and yourself the respect to get out.
7. Not Being on the Same Page
Some couples have a problem with one person feeling more committed than the other. Make sure you're on the same page about everything.
8. Not Seeing Things From Their View
You need empathy to get through any other relationship in your life -- with co-workers, your family, your friends -- why should it be different with your partner? (but doesn't mean its his side only)
9. Making Assumptions
One of the biggest assumptions made in a relationship is thinking that your partner is a certain way just because you met someone else that's that way too. The whole "all guys/girls are the same" idea gets old fast.
10. Pretending to Like Things You Don't
This is a textbook mistake that people have been making since the beginning of time!(mainly sports yet all you want to do is bum with a good book and a large glass of wine) Be with someone that shares your interests or at least someone that respect your differences, you will be much happier.
11. Expecting Things to Change
This is a hard lesson for some people to learn, but you can't change your boyfriend/girlfriend. Only they can do that and only when they decide to. If you're waiting it out, expecting something wonderful to happen, you're only wasting your time.
12. Constant Fighting
I have heard that relationships where you don't fight. . . then gyal your man doesn't really care about you but If you find yourself fighting nearly every day just to make yourself heard, it's probably time to head out or send your partner packing.
13Avoiding the Issues
Couples that argue all the time are not healthy, however couples that never discuss the tough issues may be worse. If you both keep sweeping problems under the rug and pretending to be happy, the downfall may be drastic.(hahahahaha)
Compiling this list was the most refreshing thing i did, i am pretty sure there are more goofs we all make i sure wouldn't mind hearing of them. . . please feel free to add
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